Friday, March 17, 2017

Why LOA Does Not Work For You - Revisited

Today I was reminded of an old post of mine when I watched a fabulous series of videos by NeuroGym's John Assaraf.

Ah, sweet nostalgia. I wrote this in summer 2015 when I just started this blog. "Why the law of attraction is not working for you"

NeuroGym has created a series of four free videos of which the first has been released to the public today.




NeuroGym Winning the Game of Money Video Series


I had the pleasure to watch the videos and am thrilled to share them with you.

Not only do they contain the explanation why the law of attraction does not seem to work for you - they also provide a solution.

These videos contain more value than a lot of paid programs and I consider them a must watch.

You can watch them HERE

It's all about the brain


Certain areas of the brain influence whether you are going to achieve your goals or fail. The good thing is that neuroscience also offers us ways to unlock these hidden gates to our inner power.

The brain is able to produce hormones that make us withdraw, give up and fail. Brain regions like the fear center are very helpful when a bear is after you. They are counterproductive if we hunt a goal.

How can you change your brain to support you in achieving your goals rather than making it harder or even impossible?

Find out now. WATCH VIDEO

Thursday, March 16, 2017

4 Reasons Why Affirmations Don't Work For You

Reasons When Affirmations Don't Work

Affirmations are positive statements that repeated over and over again send orders to our subconscious.

Words have power. Words can change our brain.  Our brain can change our reality.

But why is it then they work miracles for some people while others report they see no results?

Why do affirmations not work for me?


While affirmations work, they have to be "right". Let's look at a few scenarios when affirmations do not always lead to the desired results:

1. Negative affirmations


Many people are not aware that their statements are negative. Our brain is not good at spotting negation so you have to choose your words wise.

For instance: "I will not fail again" is a negative statement. Your brain will only hear " failure". The same applies to statements like "I am not sick anymore" and such.

Our subconscious can do a lot of things but logical thinking is not one of them.  How is it supposed to know you want to be healthy when you are talking about disease or failure?

Let's look at a few positive affirmations:
I, Peter, attract opportunities  effortlessly
I love myself unconditionally
Instead of "I am not sick anymore" you could say: "I am mentally and physically healthy".

Affirmations should also be short, on point and simple.

2. Persistence


Writing or saying a few random affirmations occasionally will not lead to terrific results.

We cannot expect that our brain is easier to reprogram than the average VCR. You cannot impress your subconscious that easy. And that is a good thing. Just imagine you are sitting in a bar and in the background the music box plays the song "monster" by a heavy metal band.

Affirmations should be repeated daily until you see the desired changes.


3. Discrepancy


Affirmations are supposed to be positive. But they still have to be in line with your feeling of self-worth.  If they are beyond what you can believe they will not work. Even worse, they can cause additional stress.

Using affirmations written by someone else increases the chance that they will not work for you.

The more connected you are with the statements, the more powerful impact they will have. This is why I always recommend using use customized affirmations.

If you find it difficult at first, you could work with an expert who will help you to create the most powerful affirmations to aid you in your specific situation. I do offer this service.

4. State of Mind


Affirmations work best when we are in "Alpha" mode (8 to 12 Hz), The state we are in right after we wake up and before we fall asleep. An empty mind, you could say, that is eager to soak up positive messages like a sponge.

But here is the thing: Our mind, our subconscious is loaded with all kinds of information and a lot of them are negative. Some of us have trouble getting into the relaxed state that is the ideal breeding ground for affirmations.

There is very little information out there on how to get rid of the existing garbage in our subconscious mind and how we can get into the ideal state to accelerate the speed of progressing.

To sum things up


Affirmations do work. The best is that you do not even have to believe it. Just get started and you will start believing once you see positive change. We can use them as helpers to achieve any goal faster and influence our brain to change any way we like. The limit is our imagination.

Worded wrong, affirmations can be counterproductive and even cause additional stress.

Affirmations work best when we are in the "right" state of mind. They have to comply with our feeling of self-worth. Our own words are the best because we feel strongly connected to them.

How to get the most effective affirmations


I was thinking how I can best help to address all of the potential issues people come across.

After several months of learning, testing, and tweaking I found the "holy grail of affirmations" - the perfect combination of brainwave-stimulating audio and affirmations that are heard by your subconscious - not your conscious self.

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Sunday, February 26, 2017

Mindfulness To Go

Mindfulness to go
Picture Credit: Tony Brandstetter https://goo.gl/WVT2uy


Mindfulness to go


Mindfulness is the new trend to release pressure and prevent job burnout. A basic idea and purpose of mindfulness are to focus on what matters in life, but it is often the esoteric chic of burnt out managers.

Self-awareness is a powerful soft skill that helps us break free from traditional thinking and behavioral patterns that do not serve us.

The idea:
If someone can perceive themselves unbiased, understands how and why he reacts to certain triggers, he will turn off the emotional autopilot that otherwise keeps us trapped in a stress spiral.

It's not a coincidence that mindfulness is trending. Stress related diseases are at an all-time high. The WHO (World Health Organisation) considers stress the "public enemy no. 1".

Who checks his e-mail and cell phone even on the weekends every two hours can never rest which will haunt him at some point.

It is not surprising that mindfulness is so popular as it promises stressed business people they will get a distance between their private and professional life. Between the "me" and the company. Mindfulness allows you to recharge your battery and increase your efficiency.

But not just in business - the whole society is crazy for this trend. The media are never shy to pick up a topic that gets them clicks and viewers so that "emotional intelligence for cars", "mindfulness for horses" and such are common headlines these days.

Classes for mindful gardening are available and coloring books for grown-ups are a booming business. Several corporations from SAP to Google offer yoga, mindfulness or meditation classes to their staff.

In our Western adaption, mindfulness is secular and transcendence doesn't play a role.

Ancient wisdom of how to let go changed into a cult of self-optimization. The omnipresent pressure of being best in business has shifted to the pressure of being the best at yoga. And in business.

Why is mindfulness the new hype?


Is it a trend to deceleration and reduce pressure or the opposite? Is it perhaps the perfection of the perfect? A technique that enables us to endure even more acceleration and pressure?

Does mindfulness training give people back their humanity or does it remove the last bits left? Isn't the tragic, the torn, the imperfect what makes us human?

My former employer, SAP, has put a "Director Global Mindfulness Practice" in place. 3500 SAP members attended a mindfulness class. 5500 are on a waiting list.

The SAP trainer, Bostelmann, teaches that mindfulness is the key to success, and that it is important to measure its effect on productivity and profit.

"We earn money with it,", says Bostelmann.

Escape with mindfulness


The other wave of mindfulness that is taking the country by storm has less to do with increasing productivity and efficiency. It is less elitist, but it shows best what people are missing in their everyday life, at their workplace, and in their personal life.

People believe they lost control. They feel pushed to perform even better. If you want to have the same job in one year from now, you have to run faster. And faster.

They hope that mindfulness will give them back control over their lives and sets their mind at peace.

Whether it's from my clients, in conversations with friends or throughout social media: Many people have to the wish to escape. Escape their routine and the pressure. At least for a short while.

Not everyone has to quit their job and move to a farm. For a small escape coloring mandalas or growing tomatoes can be enough.

Mindfulness is undergoing unsettling economizations

How does that make sense? Mindfulness as a hyper-optimization tool to run faster and increase productivity on one hand and on the other a way to escape for people who have trouble handling stress and pressure.

Is mindfulness just another marketing phenomenon?


Different teachers interpret the ancient practice of mindfulness in very different ways. Do you remember Bhagwan?

Bhagwan offered "meeting seminars" where people beat each other up to "shatter their egos". He interpreted mindfulness as a protest against all norms. Bhagwan preached poverty but owned several Rolls Royce. He spoke against capitalism but was skilled in convincing people to give him their money. Bhagwan spoke about liberation but created a system of spiritual imprisonment and surveillance.

The purpose of sharing these examples is to show that many very different things come with the label "mindfulness".

Mindfulness was a mindset inseparable from ethical values such as compassion, gratitude, braveness and such.

But more often than not these days people use mindfulness to make more money, limit the damage from a stressful life and increase efficiency.

A tool allowing overburdened people to carry the weight yet longer. A solution for people who are suffering from the speed they get forced to run at, allowing them to run a little faster and a little longer.

What's the problem with that?


This can only be a short-term solution. Yes, it is possible to eliminate the negative effects of stress through mindfulness.

That said if the body thinks it does not get what it deserves it will find another way to get your attention. If a person keeps ignoring the signals of the body, he might end up sick. The body has the longer arm and will get the break he needs.

Suppressing symptoms for longer than a short-term emergency will backfire.


Conclusion


  • Mindfulness lives up to the hype
  • It allows stressed business people to recharge their battery and become more efficient
  • It offers people the escape they seek
  • Mindfulness is a fabulous "tool" for stress management
  • Suppressing symptoms for an extended period will lead to undesired results 
  • Mindfulness can reduce depression, anxiety and help with overcoming trauma and dealing with chronic pain

My mindfulness offering

  • Personal coaching
  • Complete digital mindfulness training available HERE