Saturday, January 30, 2016

Ending Self-Sabotage

The art of being your worst enemy


Self-limiting beliefs lead to self-sabotage


As always in life the number one success killer is fear. What are the most common reasons for self-sabotage?

  • Lack of feeling of self-worth
  • Past hurt (Emotional Intelligence)
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of failure


Ending_Self_SabotageSelf-sabotaging behavior like eating an unhealthy diet, not pursuing our career and life goals, procrastination, false modesty or nitpicking gives us a little break from something we fear or from threatening thoughts. 

Is it a behavior successful people are free of? Hell, no. We will look at different forms of self-damaging behavior and how to break the pattern. 

Self-Sabotage how, against what?


Self-damaging is behavior that gives the person a short-term benefit. But it damages long-term goals and well-being. You could also say it´s choosing an immediate reward over a long-term bigger win. 

Monday, January 25, 2016

Setting Goals Or Drifting Along?

Why not just go with the flow? 

Setting Goals or Drifting Along
Studies show: when we are setting goals we get more of what we want in life. And it seems that pursuing goals not only makes us more successful but also happier.

Related read: The Neuroscience of Happiness

Being goal oriented has many advantages. One can work towards something that gives our life meaning and direction.

When we reach our goals we feel successful and that makes us happy - for a while.

The downside of setting goals


A disadvantage of goal setting is the constant feeling of imperfection. Incompleteness. And the feeling to rush through life without being able to enjoy the ride.

The best way to live is in the Now, right?

Saturday, January 2, 2016

I Wished I Had More Willpower

Would my life be better if I had more willpower? What could I achieve in life? What would I see through and master? Which of my dreams would come true?

Willpower and Self-Discipline


The thing about willpower and self-discipline is: most people wished they had more of both. Our life would probably be easier then. 

My willpower mindmap: 

Willpower_and_self_discipline

The Power of Anyway

Anyway


A small word with huge effect


The_Power_Of_AnywayFor me, this word changed my world a little bit and that is why I would like to share this experience with you.

Back in elementary school when I still lived in Germany we had an annual sports competition. One of the tasks was to climb up a rope and hold on to it for as long as you can. 23 kids (the whole class) climbed the rope and held on to it. One kid after the other dropped.

Finally, there were only two people left: Anna and myself. My arms felt like they were on fire and my brain started telling me: You can´t do it any longer. I focused on the burning pain in my arms and the thought: I can´t do it anymore. I have to let go.

I let go of the rope first. Within an instance of a second Anna let go too.

Anna said to me:" I could not have done it even one second longer. I only managed to hold on to the rope for so long because I imagined I would stay in that position forever and I smiled. My mind told me: You cannot hold on to that rope any longer. I told my mind: "Ok, I understand. Anyway!""