Saturday, March 26, 2016

Conditional Love: I Can´t Say No

The inability to say "no" or handle negative feedback are often the result of conditional love.

Conditional Love - I can´t say NOWhat is conditional love


Someone who is very close to you, like your life partner or parents, keeps giving you the feeling that you have to behave in a certain way or achieve certain results to deserve to be loved. They punish you by (playing to) taking their love away if you do not comply.

It´s emotional blackmail and very unhealthy as it harms a person severely and haunts them for the rest of their lives - or until they take action to remove the damage.

What are the effects of conditional love?


Very often victims of conditional love also have enormous problems in their careers. They take criticism personally, and it´s devastating for them. After all, they have been conditioned to believe that they are only worth being loved if they fulfill the conditions. When they were young criticism used to be very personal.

Friday, March 25, 2016

Jerry is on a "lose it" diet

What´s wrong with Jerry?


This is Jerry.
He looks at his impression in the mirror.
Who is that walrus standing in front of him?

Didn´t he have a healthy weight for most of his life? Jerry decides that it cannot go on like this. The warning of his doctor still echoes in his mind. And his wife is not digging it. His kids make fun of Jerry. And could this be the reason he did not get that promotion?

Jerry is on a diet


Jerry starts a diet


Low-carb is trending. Paleo. That´s how you lose the extra pounds in no time. Jerry wants to be on the safe side. He does not buy one book. He buys three books. He creates a meal planner. He goes shopping and buys all of the right foods.

Monday, March 21, 2016

What you should know to eliminate problems

We all have one. You have one. I have one. Even my pet bunny has one. I am talking about

The Basic Motive


To know your basic motive can be like finding the holy grail.

It´s the epiphany. Enlightenment.

Because it makes you understand your key driver. What motivates you, what inspires you and makes you shine sometimes. And at the same time is a source of your problems.

Coming back to my pet bunny: In his case it´s easy. Food. Well, it´s a bunny. Bunny's are known for ...... and for loving food.

I love to eat too but my basic motive is of a different nature.

Mind Movies Matrix Review 2016

Should you buy Matrix?


I was excited to check out Mind Movies latest release of Matrix because it is speaking about two things you always hear me talking about too: Emotional Intelligence and Neuroscience.

Now, we all know that many products that talk about something do not deliver.

Mind Movies Matrix

So here is my evaluation of Mind Movies Matrix:

Monday, March 14, 2016

Neuroscience: Can mindfulness change your brain? PART 1

The effects of meditation on your soul


Or how the soul can change your body´s biology


Can mindfulness change your brain?Neuroscientists discovered how the "soul" can change the body and help to overcome illness. Meditation, yoga, and positive thinking have been seen as "esoteric stuff" for the longest time. They now have a place in conventional medicine.

22 depressive people were part of a study. One man (we´ll call him John) was a family father. During some phases of his illness, he was not able to leave the house for weeks. He just wanted to get rid of the brooding. No more setbacks, that was the goal of the study.

John and the other participants learned and practiced yoga and mindfulness. They tried to appreciate and apprehend the Here and Now. The first exercise was to find out: How is it when I see a raisin? When I feel it, smell it, taste it.

Once a week they had a group meditation and on the other days, they mediated 45 minutes at home.

John (who was a doctor) was very skeptical in the beginning. He believed in conventional medicine, yes; he even felt obliged to stick to it. He never dabbled into meditation and other "esoteric stuff". Now he was sitting in the lotus pose and asked himself: What am I doing here?

The more and the longer he was working with his mind, the more he liked it. "It was the best raisin in my life" he said later.

Meanwhile, he is back to his old job and is not on medication anymore. He meditates every day.

Tuesday, March 8, 2016

Healing with the Masters Review, Jennifer McLean

Healing with the Masters 17 Test

Healing with the MastersI wanted to post this review for a while. The reason it took so long is of a very positive nature. The program is incredibly comprehensive. 

I have seen free webinars, bonuses, free ebooks as part of other programs. But never have I seen a program that includes this crazy amount of free components.

Obviously, nothing is free in life - it costs your time, the most precious currency. There is enough mediocre and even bad stuff on the market so that it makes sense to look at the value even of a freebie. 

Saturday, March 5, 2016

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Tuesday, March 1, 2016

The Power of Vulnerability

Why being vulnerable pays off


A woman and a man meet at a party. After a few highly enjoyable dates she takes a heart and says: "I love you."
The Power of Vulnerability
A young teacher finally receives the call she was urgently waiting for. She answers the phone full of joyful expectation: "I am sorry to inform you that we decided for a better-suited applicant."

A father is getting older. His physical impairments bother him. After climbing a few stairs, he asks his son: "Can you help me?"

Do you know what these moments have in common?

They all describe vulnerability.

Whether we need help from others, share our deepest emotions or face rejection. People are vulnerable. We live in a world full of vulnerability and we are faced with situations like this time and time again.

We try to avoid pain


Nobody wants to be vulnerable. We try to prevent moments of vulnerability as good as we can. We wait for the other one to say "I love you". We avoid situations where we might get rejected.