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“I want more from life! I would love to be stronger. More daring. I want to be myself. Not afraid of doing my thing. I want to be open to people. And, hey, while we’re at it: I want to be more at peace with myself. I want to just say: I’m ok the way I am, no matter what others think.”
Does that sound something like you?
In my personal coaching sessions, I have the honor to serve people from different walks of life. If I had to define a common nominator, it would be a lack of confidence.
Many of the problems of humankind relate to a lack of self-trust. It can be a manager that plays the authority card or someone who does not even try to demand the “good things” from life.
Confidence and self-esteem opposed to common belief are not the same, even though they are similar. We can have a healthy amount of self-esteem but still lack confidence.
If you want to learn more about the differences, watch the 6-minute video below:
Dangerous feeling of self-worth
The goals you pursue have to be in line with your feelings of self-worth. Else you might put yourself in danger.
If we get over 10% more or less of what we feel we are worth, it leads to problems. While we become frustrated if we get what we feel is less than we deserve, getting more can be outright dangerous.
Have you ever wondered why lottery winners, Hollywood stars and other people who became rich and/or famous overnight engage in destructive behavior?
Many lottery winners end up in poverty in a short time and the number of Hollywood stars with mental issues (depression, anxiety, phobias ..) and struggles with drug abuse is shocking.
Simple. They received more than they felt they are worth and it’s messing with their brain. Therefore, they engage in compensatory or even compulsive self-destructive behavior.
Ideally, we possess several traits:
- self-awareness (realistic self-assessment)
- confidence (trust ourselves, have faith we can grow)
- self-esteem (positive self-picture, self-love)
- problem-solving competence
- a sense of self-care (treating yourself like a good friend)
- the ability of self-acceptance (knowing and accepting who and how we are)
- authenticity (being real)